14 Manipulative Tactics

Psychopath Resistance

Learn to identify their tactics.

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Dr. George Simon, author of In Sheep’s Clothing—Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People, presents this list of 14 tactics that manipulators use to get you to do what they want. He points out the importance of recognizing that these tactics are offensive moves employed by the covert-aggressive to either maintain a position of power, gain power, or remove an obstacle from getting what he wants. You’ll be better equipped to deal with manipulators if you are familiar with this list of tactics, and can identify them when you encounter them:

  • Denial – playing innocent, refusing to admit they have done something harmful.
  • Selective Inattention – playing dumb, or acting oblivious; refusing to pay attention to anything that might divert them from achieving their goal.
  • Rationalization – making excuses or justifying their behavior, often in very convincing ways.
  • Diversion – changing…

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Bullies and Bystanders

The excellent description holds true for cyberabusers. It might not be too off to say that abusers operate in the same manner, regardless of the platform or venue that they use.

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Bullies cannot operate alone. To gain supporters, they exploit the ignorance of unsuspecting bystanders. They seek control of communication to prevent others from learning the truth about their malevolence and to restrict information to what serves their interests. They don’t want people to interact with each other, and typically, they will try to intimidate the victim from speaking with anyone. Threats, blackmail, and stonewalling are stankard methods of control.

stopbullyingWherever bullying occurs, the people who are aware of it and don’t object or intervene may believe that they are being neutral. In reality, they are actually helping the bully. Fear that they, too, will be subjected to mistreatment is one reason why bystanders look the other way when someone else is being targeted. A “culture of fear” develops easily, affecting everyone in an organization. People become intimidated from raising concerns, voicing opinions, sharing ideas, and afraid to be seen as “stepping out of line” while the more brazen personalities have their way without being questioned. Do we want this kind of…

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Newspaper shooting suspect nursed years-long vendetta after cyberstalking, harassment case — fox8.com

ANNAPOLIS, Maryland — Within hours after a Maryland shooter killed five staffers at an Annapolis newspaper Thursday, a picture began to emerge of the suspect: an unhinged loner consumed by a years-long vendetta, with a long history of Jmenacing behavior. Jarrod Ramos, now 38, began cyberstalking a former high school classmate who barely knew him in 2009, her lawyer said. According to a complaint the classmate filed in 2011, Ramos relentlessly sent her aggressive private messages, harassed her therapist for […]

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Manhattan Lawyer David Waldman Charged With Cyberstalking

David Waldman, 50, is an attorney who launched a relentless campaign against his banker ex-girlfriend after she ended their four-month relationship.  He bombarded her with vile text messages, emails, and launched hateful websites. Waldman also went as far as to send a letter to his ex-girlfriend’s boss claiming that she’s a drug addict.  After posting things about her that directly claimed her to have mental illness, and after threatening to appear at her apartment, Waldman told his ex-girlfriend’s employer that he was going to sue her for defamation, illegal trespass, and violating HIPAA.

Some of Waldman’s other communications included;

“I only hope you die of cervical cancer before I can f— up your s—,” Waldman wrote on a website he created in 2014 called eurotrashroyalty.blogspot.com. “No k–e civil attorneys, no car load of your pals, or anything else you have in your arsenal will cause me to even blink.”

“When I am wronged, I stop giving a s— about the consequences…I only feel what I need…revenge. to see suffering.” “I don’t like wanting you dead, but I do and it is deserved.”

The harassing messages arrived in batches with Waldman threatening to show up at her house, begging for sex, and contemplating suicide by taking 100 Xanax pills.

In blog posts, he claimed that she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. He wrote that she was a victim of child abuse.  Some of his emails to her included threats to contact her parents.  Waldman wrote;

“I will tell (your father) that I am forced to get an std test because his daughter apparently cant keep her pants on.” “Ill forward him your lingerie too. Im nuts enough to do it.”

Waldman followed-up on that threat. Continue reading

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Two Men Federally Indicted Along With Swatter Tyler Barris

Imagine this …

Two guys are playing an online computer game.  They get angry with each other.  One guy threatens to have the other swatted, that is, he will make a false report to the police so they will show up ready to kill.  The other guy dares him to and gives him a fake address.

The guy who threatened the swatting contacts another guy in California who is ruthless, has a history of making false police reports and bomb threats, and takes pride in doing it.  The swatter who is in California, makes a false police report to Wichita, Kansas.

It ends with an innocent 28-year old father being killed.  His children no longer have a father.

Now, don’t imagine it.  It is true.

Tyler Barris in Court

Tyler Barris was the swatter.  On December 28, 2017, he made a false police report that he was in the house of the address of Andrew Finch in Wichita, Kansas.  Only, Barris didn’t know Finch and thought he was giving the address for Shane Gaskill, the intended S.W.A.T. target.   Barris  told dispatch that he had shot his father in the head and was holding his mom and little brother hostage.  He also claimed to have poured gasoline around the house and was threatening to set it on fire.

The police showed up at Andrew’s house and hearing noise outside, he went out on the porch to check it out.  Police yelled, “Show your hands.”  Andrew was shot dead by one officer.  Watching the video, and seeing where the cops were positioned, it’s my impression that Andrew did not know those instructions were directed at him.  He turned to go back inside the house and was shot by an officer who said that he thought Andrew was going into his waistband for a gun.  Andrew was unarmed.

Barris was still on the phone with police dispatch when Andrew was shot.

Barris was extradited to Kansas and charged with involuntary manslaughter, giving false alarm, and interference with law-enforcement officers. While in jail in Kansas, Barris found a glitch in the prison’s computer system that inmates are allowed to use, and he posted threats of continued swatting from the jail.

Tyler Barris was the activator. Casey Viner was the initiator, and Shane Gaskill was the target who gave a false address to Viner.  Now they have been indicted on federal charges.  Continue reading

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Blog Changes

Some changes have been made to this blog.

On July 4, 2015, this blog was specifically opened to address cyber abuse by a person who opened a blog titled flightattendentfailures.wordpress.com.  That person, along with a few others, began cyberabuse and extortion threats in September 2012.  After almost 3 years and with its progression, it was time to document it from the start including the methods used and threats made.  Seeing that attendant was misspelled, (“attendent”) I used the correct spelling for the name of this blog.

By August 2015, one person originally named as a harasser came here and apologized.  The blog with the misspelled word was deleted.  In March 2017, a person originally named as a harasser apologized and gave me some insight into the harassment.   Still yet, another person originally named here as a harasser contacted me, and we had decent conversations and came to an understanding.

While those originally reported on this blog as harassers and extortionists stopped harassing me, another individual started on November 23, 2015.  He is a former writer for my other blog and on the evening of November 22, 2015, I terminated his writer privileges.  Using a third-party, they stated that they were going to accomplish what the original cyberabusers failed to accomplish.  Continue reading

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Juan Thompson Sentenced To 5 Years In Federal Prison For Cyberstalking And Making Hoax Bomb Threats

“The response by and large is: Ignore it and turn off  your computer,” said Danielle Citron, a University of Maryland law professor and author of “Hate Crimes in Cyberspace.”

Law enforcement must realize that there is a difference between internet trolls and cyberstalkers.  When trolls are ignored, they generally go elsewhere and find someone else to hassle.  They generally don’t have personal hatred and retribution against those they troll. Trolls generally have no personal knowledge of those they troll.

Cyberstalkers are different.  What they do is intended to cause harm in the personal lives of their target victims and some extend that harm to the family of target victims.  They have usually been friends or another type of acquaintance.  When they are ignored, they find another way to get their target’s attention.   If their overall intent is to destroy their victim’s life, they continue and progress in their course of conduct.

As this case demonstrates, when they think that they will not be arrested, they eventually do something so outrageous that it goes beyond cyberstalking.

Juan Thompson

The convicted perpetrator in this case used actions to conduct his cyberstalking that cannot be explained in summary.  In other words, this post is going to be longer than usual.  There are two main sources I use for this post.  The Department of Justice’s press release gives details of illegal actions leading to arrest.  The other source is the Seattle Times that published an interview with the victim, Francesca Rossi.

Juan Thompson, 31, of St. Louis, was employed as a journalist by The Intercept from November 2014 until January 2016.  Thompson was fired for fabricating sources and quotes in stories.

In late 2014, Francesca met Juan on an online dating site.  She worked as a social worker.  They bonded over their commitment for reform.  In the Spring of 2015, Juan moved into Francesca’s Brooklyn apartment.

Francesca started getting harassing texts from ex-boyfriends. The wife of an ex-boyfriend said she sued Francesca, accusing her of giving the ex-boyfriend a sexually transmitted disease.  The lawsuit turned out to be a hoax.  Then Francesca found a nude picture of herself online.

Francesca contacted Carrie Goldberg, a lawyer that specializes in online harassment.  Attorney Goldberg quickly figured out that only one person was behind the harassment.  Juan had been posing as Francesca’s ex-boyfriends for months.  Francesca believed that he was trying to make her feel bad so he could intimidate and control her.  (Known fact; Stalkers often create conditions to cause their target victims to feel they need them to resolve or for comfort.) Continue reading

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